When my friends talk about finding love they often wonder aloud why they can’t find a person who thinks they are attractive when they first wake up, who will open doors for them, who stands when they walk in the room and who really listens when they talk. Even the wonderful man I find myself falling for has said these things. I do these things for most people most of the time, and all the time if I “like-like” the person, but nobody notices.
If this is truly what people want then why don’t they see it when I hand it to them on a silver platter?
I see the pictures on tumblir, facebook and other assorted sites about how “girls just want to date a gentleman” and in my head I scream silently because I know that they mean they want a gentleman who is perfect in EVERY way; tall, white, buff with a penis. (and no boobs) They don’t mean they want someone who will act like a gentleman, treat them well and see them as beautiful.
I guess for the time being my flirting, my romancing, will continue to be ignored and I will continue to act with chivalry, bravery and honor. I only hope that eventually someone comes along who actually wants that…
What do you look for in romance? What do you find instead?
Yours in Queerness, Duo Spirtus