On Jokes, Stereotypeing and Gender “Differences.”
Today I spent time with family members I don’t often spend time with, one in particular, and I was reminded of the reasons for the separation during our visit today.
For the most part I ignore cruel and sexist comments such as “you through like a girl.” But when one is surrounded by such comments, even if they aren’t directed at you or are meant as a joke, it hurts. Between the sexist jokes of my grandfather, the gender based discrimination at the hands of my own uncle and the silent acceptance of everyone around me except my mother I find my spirit nearing it’s breaking point.
The pain I felt with every assumption made about me based on the presence of breasts on my chest and with every family member that just let it slide… On a less personal note I must remind all of my readers to avoid making generalizations about anyone based on anything they cannot change.
It’s fine to assume someone is part of a sub-culture if they dress like they are, it’s fine to assume someone is buying books if they are in a book store and it’s fine to assume someone wears a bra if they have boobs. But other gross generalizations based on BIOLOGICAL FACTS THAT CANNOT BE CHANGED are inappropriate, unfair and rude.
My rant is done, I’ll be back with a more logical and less emotional post some time next year. Until then, HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Yours in Queerness,
Posted on December 31, 2011, in Advice, Ideas, Life, My Mind, My Past, Other, Uncategorized and tagged anger, childhood, discrimination, family, gender, handsome, queer, respect, self, sex, sexist, teen, two spirit, youth. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.